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Meanwhile, nurse Amy Teoh, 33, is finding life more relaxing, even though her role as an essential worker is demanding. For example, the children can choose to stay positive, rather than be consumed with negativity, when reading unremitting news reports about the virus. "Increasingly, with all the uncertainty in the word, we want to make sure that they learn to be independent and to make good decisions."īeyond academics, Ms Lim has been teaching her children to be resilient, such as encouraging them to be intentional in how they react to events. Ms Lim says: "Covid has reinforced my view that my parenting has to be focused on preparing the children for any eventuality, whether it's in terms of imparting values or skill sets. Her younger child, Cara, 11, has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) and sometimes finds it challenging to pay attention in school, so Ms Lim was pleasantly surprised to find her daughter thriving under HBL.Ĭara, who has a 14-year-old brother, Corum, learnt at her own pace and ticked off the assignments each day, completing them ahead of time. Ms Lim had to quickly adjust to being a HBL guide after being discharged.
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Ms Violet Lim, who co-founded local dating agency Lunch Actually with her husband, Mr Jamie Lee, has had to deal with a series of surprises in recent months.īoth Ms Lim, 40, and Mr Lee, 44, were hospitalised after contracting Covid-19 following a trip to the United States in early March. The uncertainty of the coronavirus situation has also led many parents to re-assess their parenting priorities. She says: "I step up when I need to, and he does the same. One example is what was happening in Ms Nur Hafizah Sulaiman's household during home-based learning (HBL).
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"Even though mothers are multi-tasking more than ever, Dads, too, are doing more for the family," she notes.
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Additionally, mothers are also viewed as being physically responsible for more of the childcare.īut one dividend of this unusual time, says Dr Nilanjan Raghunath, an assistant professor of sociology at Singapore University of Technology and Design (SUTD), is that family dynamics may change under coronavirus, with some couples witnessing less imbalance in their co-parenting. The mental load of incessantly planning and organising, for example, meals and activities for the household, has become "more visible" under Covid-19, says Dr Aliya Hamid Rao, an assistant professor of sociology at Singapore Management University (SMU). Such work can range from scheduling activities to keep a toddler with a 15-minute attention span occupied while working from home supporting a child in his home-based learning remembering a baby's vaccination dates, buying a birthday present for the mother-in-law to keeping track of what groceries need restocking.
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This is usually accompanied by a low-level hum of anxiety about the well-being of one's family. It describes a constant stream of thinking, planning and organising for one's household. Mrs Joanna Koh-Hoe, chief executive officer of Focus on the Family Singapore, notes: "Coupled with this year's findings, it would appear that Covid-19 and the extended Circuit Breaker is adding to the physical and mental load that mothers carry in terms of child-caregiving and household chores."Īlso known as emotional labour, the mental load she refers to is traditionally borne mostly by women. Mum guilt is the feeling of guilt, doubt or worry when mothers think that they are failing as parents, or falling short of expectations of what a mother should be.